Marie Grace Gaffud Antonio is an Open Source advocate working with Bluepoint Foundation as Executive Director and Director of Operations. Magie and Engels are proud parents of Psylocke & Phoenix.
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"God gave us two ends. One to sit on and one to think with. Success depends on which one you use; heads you win -- tails, you lose."

- Anonymous
Harmless vs Helpful
Sunday, Aug 7, 2005, 2:47 PM
Sometimes I'm torn between the saying "It's better to be harmless than helpful" and James 4:17's "Whoever knows what is right to do and fails to do it, for him it is sin". When can one really know how to draw the line between being nosy and apathetic?

I can go out of my way for the ones I care about, even to fight their own fight. That has been my story ever since. Time came when it seems that though I have exerted my 200% effort, nothing has been changed and I ended up being all by myself, left by the one who came for my help. This life lesson taught me to step back and endure seeing others suffer so they can learn to stand on their own and face their challenges or predicaments head on. If ever I'm on the verge of reaching out, I would remind myself that in order to help others, I must first help myself since we each have our own cobwebs to clear. I survive in this mode until the next time a family member approaches me and seeks my help again. Then I'll put myself in their shoes and be a scout once more, ready to help. It has become a viscious cycle too that after I reach out my hand they'd cast me into oblivion, to be conveniently tapped again when needed. Story of my life.

To my dear karugtong ng pusod, I may just have to take consolation in this song:

-Written by B. Scott and B. Russell
-Peaked at #7 in 1970 as performed by the Hollies
-Peaked at #20 in 1970 as performed by Neil Diamond
-Peaked at #30 as the B-side to "Let It Shine" in 1976 as performed by Olivia Newton-John

The road is long
With many a winding turn
That leads us to who knows where
Who knows when
But I'm strong
Strong enough to carry him
He ain't heavy, he's my brother

So on we go
His welfare is of my concern
No burden is he to bear
We'll get there
For I know
He would not encumber me
He ain't heavy, he's my brother

If I'm laden at all
I'm laden with sadness
That everyone's heart
Isn't filled with the gladness
Of love for one another

It's a long, long road
From which there is no return
While we're on the way to there
Why not share
And the load
Doesn't weigh me down at all
He ain't heavy, he's my brother

He's my brother
He ain't heavy, he's my brother...

And Matthew's verse:

"Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me."
Matthew 25:40

It can make things meet halfway as advised by the Great Teacher on what we must do to our brothers as well as our sisters, blood-related or not.
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